Sex dolls…also knows as, love dolls, also known as, pleasure dolls, also known, as real dolls…you get the picture. The truth is, how you classify your doll to find her or him in your search engine, isn’t important. What is, is what your doll means to you. For some, a sex doll is a great way to satiate a steamy sexual desire, for some it’s about bringing a bit of spice to the bedroom, and for others it’s more about a means for companionship. For some, it’s even deeper than that. Perhaps, you or your partner has a condition that prevents one of you from engaging in sexual intercourse and a sex doll is your saving grace to maintaining a healthy sex life.
Whatever your relationship with your doll, embrace it! Don’t get us wrong, we know that owning a sex doll is a private matter, and we prioritize using discretion when shipping your doll (s). However, what you do with your doll is no one’s business but your own, but the point is, you shouldn’t be ashamed about it.
Even as the owner Oh My Dollie, it took a while for me to become comfortable with sharing the details of my business with others. This was after sharing the idea with a few people and then being met with a frown, followed by comments like: “Why?” or “Gross!” or my personal favorite, “Aren’t sex dolls for perverts?” Was that what people would start thinking about me?
It was fine to say, “I work in e-commerce.” But when I got the dreaded , “Oh yeah…doing what?”. I’d panic and quickly began defaulting to saying, “I sell novelties”. I mean, it vague but still true. I was selling novelties; adult novelties, specifically, sex dolls. But they didn’t need to know that.
I even ran into issues when working with advertisers. Microsoft is one that comes to mind. For those of you that don’t know, in order to run any ad that contains adult content with Microsoft, you must submit an “Adult Advertising Form”, for approval. This I get, as it’s to ensure that all content meets their guidelines, and isn’t violent, or condone truly heinous acts like: rape, revenge porn, or child pornography
Oh My Dollie, condones no such acts and was approved. But I didn’t realize that, that approval came with a HUGE asterisk. I soon, found that I didn’t qualify for certain account offers or promotions because I owned an adult website. This of course, was never communicated upfront. Or that their support 24/7 team wouldn’t help me via their online chat. No, there was a special team I had to contact during certain hours, and I could only call in. But oh wait, I still had to be lucky enough to catch someone from that team even if it was during normal business hours. Otherwise, someone would take a message for me and follow-up.
It was annoying and it made me feel like I was doing something wrong and that I was being judged. I started to think, is it even worth it? Perhaps I should go into another field. Something that was easier, and more socially acceptable.
To the general public, sex doll owners are often labeled as: weird, creepy, lonely…and a laundry list of other ridiculous terms. But then, I had an epiphany. People often criticize what they don’t understand, but whether they understand something, wan’t mine and it isn’t your problem.
I was servicing a need. Nothing about it was illegal or wrong. Who was anyone to say that one need should be met over another? More importantly, I was providing people a means to create a pleasurable experience for themselves With all the crazy shit going on in the world, people deserve more pleasure. That surely was nothing to be ashamed about.
So maybe I am a bit weird but I’m ok with that, and whatever else people feel the need to call me. Because at the end of the day my business is pleasure, and my business and my pleasure is that of my own.